A couple of weeks ago, I posted pictures of my daughter’s closet. Tacked up on her wall, she has a list of clichés that are true. She found the list on Pinterest and for whatever reason she related with it and (quite literally) pinned it for inspiration. There is a flip-side to that coin: clichés that aren’t true. Those, I believe, are harder to come by but indeed they do exist. Here are five that come to mind.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder – I could see that this one would be true of, say, macarons from the Laduree counter in Paris. When applied to people–to relationships–I have to say that it is anything but true. My husband spent time in Iraq. He was deployed less than two months after we were married. While it would certainly be romantic to tell you that our bonds were only strengthened by the time apart, it would be a bold-faced lie. We fought something fierce while he was gone. We exchanged heated words by phone and email. There were resentments and burdens on both sides, the cure for which came only with our reunion. We’ve done quite a lot of maturing in the time that has passed since, but still when he has a busy travel schedule for business, the us I’m used to feels distant. Absence makes our hearts grow lonely.
You can’t judge a book by its cover – Does anybody actually believe that? I’m not talking about books here. I’m talking about people. About character. Let’s say you’re looking for a babysitter, for example. Would you hire a tatted up teen with a shaved head and enough nuts and bolts protruding through his ear lobes to assemble the inner workings of a grandfather clock? Most likely not. If you have so much as an ounce of sense, you can use clues from one’s appearance to make a reasonable assessment of character. There are obviously exceptions, but generally speaking you indeed can determine some very important things from appearance alone. It is not my place to judge anybody’s heart, but it is my responsibility to make decisions for my family’s welfare much like it is an employer’s responsibility to make decisions for his or her business. The hard truth is that appearances do matter. Proceed accordingly.
Flattery will get you nowhere – Ha! Tell that to my sweet-talking husband who, more often than not, can sweet talk his way onto an overbooked plane or into a restaurant without reservations. His fine art of flattery is so tightly woven with charm and wit that only the most discerning of individuals would think to even question him. When our fate rests in the hands of a stranger who can choose whether or not to accommodate us, my husband does the talking. More often than not, his silver tongue brings one home for the team.
Good things come to those who wait – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: good things do not come to those who just wait. Good things come to those who persevere. Enough said.
Love hurts – Love is a lot of things, but hurtful is not one of them. One need look no further than 1 Corinthians 13 for confirmation. I got pregnant as a junior in high school and spent the following three years learning a thing or two about what love is and what it is not. Those three years overflowed with hurt and anger and violence, but love was suspiciously absent. As a woman who is wholly happy in love and in marriage, I can assure you that love does not hurt. I would even go so far as to dispel another cliché about love. That is: love is hard work. Not in my experience. There most assuredly is sacrifice and compromise and nurturing, but none of the above feel like work when they are freely given to someone you love.
Do you agree or disagree with my assessment? Are there any untrue clichés you would add?