Quite some time ago I wrote and ran a teen pregnancy series that touched on various aspects on topic, all written from my first-hand experience. Within the Lives Less Broken post (the second in the series), I mentioned the behavior contract I created when my oldest child was starting high school. I had a number of requests to write a separate post on that behavior contract and I fully intended to do so in a timely manner. Oh, but the best laid plans…
Here we are, five months later and I am, finally, bringing that post to fruition. So, without further ado, here is a scan of the original contract I wrote in 2007.
I fully intend to implement this same procedure when my next one starts high school this coming July. There will be some revisions, of course. For instance, not ALL social media sites are against the rules. Also, I’ve done away with the poker chip reward. It was too tedious a system to maintain. In its place, I take the older girls to movies, lunch, or out shopping every so often, just the three of us. In hindsight, I wish I hadn’t included that portion in the contract. Not because I want to skimp on rewards, but because the behavior contract was meant to be a reference, not a dangling carrot. It was meant to clearly and concisely state my expectations. Any subsequent rewards are to be icing on the cake, not expected compensation.
I showed you mine; now tell me yours. What bullet points would be added or omitted from your versions?